Keyword: Someday

Last night I got into a conversation with a dear friend about this "problem" she seems to think I have. The problem being: my singleness. I'd like to start off this blog by saying that I dearly love this friend, and that I truly support relationships and would indeed like to be in one someday. Keyword: someday.

This holiday season amidst old friends and family, I'm anticipating the questions... "So are you seeing anybody right now?"... "Do you have a boyfriend?"... "Why not?" Now, there's nothing wrong with those questions. However, (correct me if I'm wrong) there often seems to be this idea behind them that because I don't have a significant other that I'm missing something terribly or that I'm not completely "whole" without someone else. I have no problem answering the question truthfully and with dignity, but I do have problems with the pity party that follows my answer. If I felt fine about my life before their question, my life will often seem null and void along with a dropping self-esteem after our conversation.

Me: "No, I'm not really seeing anybody right now."

Inquisitor: "Oh really? Why not? You're so [insert 'compliment' here]!"

Me: "Thanks, I just haven't really found someone.... I guess."

[Thoughts of why if I'm so ____... why don't I have someone? start to appear]

Inquisitor: "There weren't any guys at school? Work?"

Me: "Nope..." [Do I just suck at meeting people? Hope this ends soon...]

Inquisitor: "Oh... [begins hosting pity party]... well you'll find someone soon!"

Me: "Thanks..." [becomes reluctant guest at pity party for 'pathetic' love life]

Oh life...and people. It takes so much patience, don't you think?

Anyways, the point is that I understand your concern for my life in general, but I am happy and fulfilled with a lot of the relationships around me. If I were to meet someone right now, that would just be an added plus to the people that I already have in my life. For now, I plan on living my life day to day with people... in this beautiful city:

And you know... if someday I meet someone that doesn't mind the craziness that is my life, then great!

Keyword: someday